Breakup always doesn’t mean to break feelings also. If the relation is not happy then better let it move on.
So you no longer feel anything special towards your girlfriend/boyfriend? And you are searching for a way to deliver the bad news to them? Here, we suggest you the do’s and don’ts when you break up with someone.
First, here’s what NOT to do:
Don’t text or email it:
You may be tempted to text a breakup to avoid arguments and tears but don’t go that road. The worst way to break up is sending a text message. It’s cold and unnecessarily disrespectful.
Don’t post it on Facebook:
Changing your Facebook status from ‘In a relationship’ to ‘single’ is not a way to tell you boyfriend/girlfriend that you are breaking up with them. Doing so, you are just bringing everyone on the social media into your world. Just think about how you’d want someone to break up with you and try doing the same thing to them.
Don’t tell your friends before you break up:
The worst way to know someone is breaking up with you is through their friends. It’s a pathetic and miserable way to do it. So don’t go telling your friends about it, as they might tell him/her. This would only make things more complicated.
When you decide to break up with someone, the first you need to do is ask yourself why you want to end the relationship. Because if someone is breaking up with you, the first question you always ask is ‘WHY?’Whatever the reasons may be, just try not be mean. Make sure you treat the other person with respect.
Here are the things you have to do when you break up with your girlfriend/boyfriend:
Do it privately and in person:
Know that you are about to hurt the other person’s feeling no matter how gently you handle the breakup. So just do it in private and in person, when you won’t be interrupted. If you do it in public, you’re just hurting them more. Rather you’re humiliating them, which is the last thing you might want to do.
Make it stick:
Delivering bad news to them might make them cry. Even if you can’t stand the sight of your ex crying, don’t back down. Remember, it’s not a negotiation. You’re letting them know that you are leaving the relationship and there’s nothing that can be done.
Don’t blame them:
Don’t talk about what you think the other person did wrong in the relationship or negatively evaluate their personality. Blaming them will wrongly put the responsibility for your decision to break up. It won’t indicate the forward motion but rather a punishment.
Listen respectfully to what they have to say:
While breaking up with someone, give the other person the respect of focusing on their point to view and then only they can move on. Don’t try making suggestion during the conversation because it would only be about your point of view which you don’t want to bring up right now.
Accept the fact that they may say hurtful things:
It is natural for someone to react badly after hearing the breakup news. You might express their feelings filled with anger, in attack-style form of conversation. Even if they do so, be calm and willing to sit there and take it quietly. Be prepared for this and focus you attention on what the person is really trying to say.
Be short, swift and direct:
Trying to elongate the breakup message will only make things complicated. So just be short, swift and direct to the other person. Try avoiding preamble. It’s just like ripping off the band aid- quicker the better and less painful.